A few gems I have picked up along the way….
I remember reading “Letter To My Daughter” by Maya Angelou, I remember the space that I was in when I read it, I needed advice and wanted so badly for someone to hug me and tell me that everything that I was experiencing was normal and that I would be okay. During that time I read, I have always enjoyed reading for me its therapeutic, cathartic, and basically makes me feel better lol.
So I sat in my own misery and I read, I read because I didn’t know what else to do. I read because all I had were my thoughts and dreams bottled up inside of me. I wondered if there were other people out there looking for me like I was looking for them for answers.
Oddly enough I am still searching I have found some gems that came in the form of humans who have helped me on my journey and gave me solid pieces of advice and most of them I don’t even think know it.
Now I am in no way shape or form a professional but I do want to share some advice that a lot of people over the years have given me. Advice in my opinion can come in many forms, I remember the best advice given to me when I was going through it was a bible scripture. Words of peace and wisdom I will take from anyone and it’s always amazing how “new” we think our troubles are until we see a quote describing the very thing that we are going through with a date of 1812 at the end.
- “In order to have a good friend you have to be a good friend.” (I remember a person telling me this when I was always “too busy” for my friends when they stopped calling I got sad but remember it takes two people to have a relationship make the time)
- “Just because you want it with all of your heart doesn’t mean you don’t have to fight for it with all of your might.” (In a nutshell just because you are passionate about it does not mean you wont have to work for it)
- “Learn how to forgive so you can be set free.” (In all my years of living which is few in comparison to the wise ones the idea that me forgiving someone else is setting me free seemed like a crock of you know what. It wasn’t until recently that I forgave someone that I got it. It’s like having a weight lifted off your chest all because you forgave. The act of what the person did is not even important because you become free from it, holding on gives them power. I know that this will be an ongoing learning experience and I am okay with that.)
- “You need to be around people that reignite your passion. Get to a place where you are inspired to read again, write again, and be free to learn and strive towards your purpose.” (In the past couple of months I have been around people who literally inspire me to want to do better and be better. When I meet people or speak to people I am looking for how their lives can add to my human experience in a good way. Sounds cheesy but think about it, every person you meet will impact your life you just have to notice it.
- “It is chiefly through books that we enjoy intercourse with superior minds. In the best books, great men talk to us, give us their most precious thoughts, and pour their souls into ours. God be thanked for books. They are the voices of the distant and the dead, & make us heirs of the spiritual life of past age. Books are true levelers. They give to all who will faithfully use them, the society, the spiritual presence, of the best & greatest of our race.” -William Ellery Channing
- “Your intentions are EVERYTHING!” (Always ask yourself, what are your intentions? Are you doing something to prove a point, learn something new, embarrass someone, hurt someone? Ask yourself and then really sit with who you are…now are you content with that person?)
- “You will smile again.” (I actually smiled when I wrote that line because there was a time where I did not believe it would ever be possible to smile and mean it. I smile a lot now at nothing in particular but I do it because I can. I know it hurts and it makes your cry and there is not light that can be seen in the tunnel but I promise you will smile again and you will mean it.)
- “Don’t let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.” (I remember crying to my mother about why I am not yet where I want to be in life. Everything was an obstacle nothing was going right, her words were simple, so simple it angered me…”Just keep doing what your good at and it will happen.” I remember rolling my eyes thinking “that’s it ma, that’s all you got for me?” Oh but she was so right remember you are good at something and sometimes it will be the very thing that you think anyone can do that is your very own special gift.)
- “If the only prayer you ever say is Thank You, that will be enough.” (You don’t need long prayer notes and a list that is legal pad worthy to talk to God. I have been in many a situations where I was simply at a lost for words. The only words I could muster to God was Thank You.)
- ”Trust the journey, trust the struggle.” (In all honesty I am still learning to trust the journey and the struggle there have been so many times where all I could do was cry. Cry because I have dreams that seem unattainable, cry because I couldn’t just want to be something normal like a teacher, cry because of my living conditions, cry cry cry keep going only to fail and cry some more. My tears have always been silent prayers to God asking him to have mercy on me. To give me a success a small goal reached to let me know I am moving in the right direction. I would not get the job I really really wanted or the interview with a certain celebrity I had been going back and forth with only for them to totally ignore me when I thought I was so close. Seen my peers in the same field pass my by some running circles around me when it comes to their achievements. And then time would pass and I would try my “luck” and reach out to someone and without hesitation they would say yes. Trust your journey and your struggle.
These are just a few pieces of advice that people have shared with me or I have read. I need to make more posts like these while writing them it actually put me in a good mood lol. Feel free to share advice that you read or things that made you say “I can make it.”
Excerpt from: “Letter to my daughter”