When I grow up I want to be…Mary Jane Paul
I know Mary Jane is a fictional character that comes on once a week on BET but she is like a real life black Barbie (she has everything). She is a very successful as a reporter, she lives in an amazing house, she dates all these cute guys, she is gorgeous, smart, well versed, her closet is every single thing, and lastly she knows it. Mary Jane is very unapologetic about her lifestyle…but on the flip side her love life sucks, she is lonely, has no kids, and is a know it all when it comes to telling people what they should be doing with their lives. Mary Jane wants better for herself and her family although her version of helping people always comes off as being self righteous. For some reason all of her flaws still don’t irk me enough not to idolize her.
I was having a conversation the other night and I was so surprised that someone actually disliked Mary Jane Paul…how was this possible? But then I thought about it, Mary Jane for me is what success looks like on paper, she has her career, home, money, nice body, amazing shoes, and her hair is always laid, in my world what more could a girl want? Of course when you turn off the television and get a reality check that life is more than material possessions you realize Mary Jane has it all but not really. I do find it odd that people believe that her life is unrealistic, to me she is forward progression of what black women can be on television and in real life. We are not just the wife of the successful (fill in the blank) we can have our own and be very successful.
And I think that’s the problem,
men people are still uncomfortable with the idea that women can be “the boss.” We are becoming “too independent” and that is why we can’t find mates (so they say). But when I look at Mary Jane I don’t see that at all, I see a woman who I would want to know, get some business advice from, make my mentor, connect with her because she has something to offer. It’s her inability to find a man and keep him that makes her human, her family issues make her relatable, and her success makes her inspiring. So when people ask me who I most want to be like when I “grow up” I would have to say Mary Jane, minus the drama, keep the cute guys.